Nice Post from a Quitter.

In case there’s any confusion, physical withdrawals are very real coming off pot, but not everybody is susceptible for many factors. I would think that anyone that gets high on a weekly basis would have some noticeable symptoms
. And certainly daily smokers can expect problems.

I’ve been smoking weed for 30 years and I started when I was 19. I smoked anywhere between 1-6 hits everyday and this is the first time I decided to stop smoking, I decided that the pot has ruined my social life and now that I’m almost 50, I’m starting to worry about my lungs and future mental powers. (I also read that pot smokers are more prone to metal disorders later in life.) I’m a successful computer designer, but I always needed the pot to help relieve my anxiety at the end of the day.

6 weeks before stopping, I made sure that I only took only one hit per day. (Good stuff) Then I slowed down to one hit every other day for about 3 weeks. Then 10 days ago I stopped completely, and it has been rough. I think because I slowed down gradually, my appetite has not been affected at all as compared to everybody else’s experience, but here is what I immediately noticed.

Insomnia – I got about 5 hours a night, some bad dreams, some good ones, but the problem is they are so long and so vivid. I must not be getting my REM slept I suppose.

Sore all over – hands, calves, neck, back. Just about everywhere, must be the stress as it started all of a sudden. Weird electric like surges going through my body. I’ve been having tingling in my fingertips, but that might be related to my hunched over posture and back as I’ve been weak and tired from poor slept.

Extreme irritability – such as cursing very loud in the car because red lights are too long. (And I never curse.) But, the good news, within seconds I tell myself ‘no big deal’. This had NO effect on any of my relationships with people, but I was not a heavy smoker so its probably not a good time for serious discussions. Also, no heavy discussions before going to bed.

Talking too quickly – I found myself interrupting and talking over people before they finished their sentence. This causing more anxiety in me that I could feel growing the more I talked. Consider making conversions short with people.

Heart rate – I think my heart rate is about 15 beats per minute higher as I think my general level of stress is higher. I had only one panic attack about 10 years ago, and over the past 10 days, I started to have a few minor ones.

Also, I thought I’d mention that I have been reading an incredible amount each day since I stopped smoking. 8 hours a day as compared to 3 hours a day when I was high. This is common as reports indicate that people that stop smoking weed, they often take on more challenging reading and studying tasks.

RECOMMENTATIONS TO CONSIDER FOR TRYING TO STOP SMOKING WEED:

#1 Don’t stop cold turkey! Reduce your consumption in a couple of stages over 6-8 weeks. I had no problem doing this once I made the commitment to myself. Measure and ration it out. If you are a heavy smoker and you stop suddenly, you are making it much harder on yourself and it will dramatically affect your life and job, and could easily lead to a panic attack, a doctor’s visit, and other problems.

#2 Exercise – the common standard walking amount is 10,000 steps per day. Do it 3-4 times a week while you’re feeling bad and I’ll guarantee it will help. However, consider a walking buddy as you might be feeling paranoid.

#3 Only drink one small cup of coffee in the morning of a weak mix. This will dramatically cut down on panic attacks, shortness of breath, jitters, and heat palpitations. Start reducing your coffee consumption about 3 weeks before you stop smoking weed. No expresses or lattés!

#4 Drink lots of complex carbohydrates, such as juices. Cranberry juice supposedly strips out the internal lining of the bladder. I would think a variety would be best. But, watch out, some juices are far from 100% pure. I think I also read something about milk being good because of the vitamin D.

#4 Eat lots and lots of salads as your stomach will be churning and gassed up. If you ever thought about eating real healthy, this is time in your life to start.

#5 Consider moving over to brownies to taper off your addiction. If you don’t want all the oil and fat from brownies, you can eat weed directly, but first cut it up and heat it in the oven for 20 minutes at 160 degrees. (Decarboxylation) It takes about 200-250% more to get the same effect as smoking it.

#6 Have everything organized before hand, a plan. Have your house clean, your bills paid off, and don’t think your going to get a lot done during your detox time. You’re going to feel crazy at time, heart racing, achy, and just feeling sour in general. I found myself getting compulsive about thing, like writing this helper for you guys!

#7 Have lots of entertainment ready such as DVD’s, games, and other distractions. You’re not going to feel too inspired at this period. I ended up watching youtube for hours along with TV and movies.

#8 If you think you will have severe reactions, consider getting a short term (30 day) prescription of Alprazolam/Xanax (similar to Valium but much cleaner and much shorter half life) as this will greatly help mellow you out, prevent panic attacks, and it should help your stomach because it relieves stress. I would highly consider this if you’re already prone to high anxiety like me. I have a well respected doctor and he knows about my weed issues.

#9 Try to stay around people and situations where you can’t get high. Don’t be alone after a hard day of work with a bag sitting in the drawer. Also, it’s probably better to stop smoking during the summer months. You also might find that you will spend less time with your toking buddies and you might come to the conclusion that there is not as much in common with them anymore as a lot of your past activities revolved around getting high and acting silly and wasting time. You also might notice that you listen to less music.

#10 According to the research that I found, the symptoms last from 10 to 26 days and the worse is around the forth day. Consider your next vacation to line up?

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Go to bed 22, Wake Up 25 and Realize You Have Wasted Your Life…

J: ur so awesome thanks for making this website im 22 and i dont want to be 25 and see all the time that passed by. i think i smoke out of habit i dont even enjoy it anymore. i smoke then i feel bad because i wasted time then i do it again. i forgot how it is to be sober is it true that after a while u just stop thinking bout it? i smoke round 3 joints a day. but im ready to quit. any advice u can give me? i really dont wanna be 30 and still high. thanks for ur time.

QWAS: when i was your age, i was still having fun with it. it was new, scared me a bit from time to time, and made me feel independent and maybe even different.

of course, all of that is an illusion. smoking weed doesnt help you be independent, different, or promote free thought. its much more likely that it fosters a feeling of belonging– to your group— and takes away your drive to do anything that doesnt involve smoking joints.

i smoked weed in joints, with pipes, at work, with friends, did hotknives, bottle tokes, and pretty much got into it full steam. i used to have dreadlocks halfway down my back and played in a band with other guys who smoked. so, youre still young, and you may not be totally over it yet. that part is something you have to really be sure about, because trying and failing makes it seem more daunting next time you get the urge to give quitting a try.

if you really feel like youve had it, then most of what i would tell you is on the site.

and– i dont pretend that quitting is easy, you kind of have to be fed up with your lifestyle in order to put the right things into practice to change your habits and schedule.

as for the physical addiction part, people disagree. i think that for most people, its a behvioural thing that needs to be radically changed. you need to new activities. ditch your pot smoking friends (you wont miss them all that much– i promise) and make a plan for each day, so you dont have time on your hands to obsess over the idea of smoking.

also — get rid of your papers, pipes, bongs, and all of the stuff you keep handy. throw it in the garbage or give it to someone. thats what i did, and i can tell you, the person i gave it to looked pretty alarmed that i was moving on and they werent. now thats how you start feeling independent and like you are in control. first step in my opinion.

you should remind yourself regularly: its just not that great! smoking a joint rarely makes you feel the way you wish it would.

ive only smoked really amazing weed a handful of times. most of the time, it was substandard…

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Guy Gets Girl… And Breaks Up With the Chron.

Guy: I got a lung infection/flu three weeks ago and couldn\’t smoke. It luckily coincided with meeting a patient Columbian cutey who has been really supportive. So I\’ve managed to stay smoke free..

Your website is AMAZING, I looked for loads of info and it\’s like noone else is suffering because all that comes up is stuff by people that clearly arent proper chronic, they\’re just part-timers who are paranoid about their smoking.

I made my own little list of reasons to quit a few years ago, but yours is bloody excellent.. will always refer back to it :)

JUST WANTED TO SAY THANKS DUDE!

QWAS: Sounds really good.

Meeting a nice girl will make everything easier. Good luck.

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Turning Weed into Wine. Comments from A**

A**: Hi!  I just wanted to say that I appreciate finding this site.  I\’ve
realized that smoking pot just isn\’t fun for me anymore.  It\’s like
it just became a huge part of my routine , a distraction, a form of
self-medication, and I don\’t even notice that I\’m high anymore.
I\’ll toke up, feel it for like 10 minutes, then it\’s like it just
kind of fades away – did that ever happen to you when you reached the
point you wanted to give it up?  I don\’t even really enjoy it that
much anymore.  I also do find myself having some random memory lapses
and not remembering dreams as well as I\’d like to.  I feel like I
might become more dream-aware once I let it go.

I had a couple of constructive criticisms I\’d like to offer…I
didn\’t like the recommendation of having wine instead during the
initial stages of \”withdrawal.\”  Alcoholism runs in my family, so I
do not drink.  It\’s tempting to want to get a buzz on when you\’re
quitting pot, and I worry about wanting to replace one thing with
another if I were to try that.  Also, it just so happens that my
house-mate is a recovering alcoholic, so I don\’t keep alcohol in the
house as a support for him.  People with addictive personalities might
decide to just swap out one for the other, and alcohol really IS very
CHEMICALLY addicting, not just psychologically.

Another thing I suggest is maybe finding some alternative to all the
pictures of paraphernalia and the guy smoking pot.  I think I get your
point of wanting to show the darker side of it with the guy looking
obviously unhappy while smoking (isolation, etc.), but to me it seems
like it might actually tempt people into wanting to smoke up by seeing
images of someone doing it/the paraphernalia.  I know a small part of
me is like, \”hmmmmm,\” when I see images like that, even if the image
isn\’t positive or depicting anyone having fun.

I personally don\’t think m.j. is the bane of human existence, but like
any substance it can be overused and abused.  And I do see people
becoming psychologically addicted to it and acting like moody asses
when they can\’t score.  I have had friends get downright mad because
they had to wait, and I always wondered why they didn\’t just go do
something else with their time?  I\’m definitely glad that even after
all my years of smoking I was always able to go without in times of
unaffordability or unavailability, unlike some of my friends.

I appreciate how you\’re not anti-pot (you just acknowledge that like
anything it can become a self-destructive habit) and realize that not
every recreational/social smoker has a problem.  I also appreciate how
you\’re pro-legalization and pro-industrial hemp.  No matter my
personal stance and preference on the matter, I certainly don\’t
begrudge anyone their own, personal choice.

Another point is that most of my friends who used to smoke up a lot
really don\’t anymore (or at least very often), it\’s about time I
followed suit, I feel.  I don\’t want to be the one pot-head friend and
fall behind when everyone else is sober most of the time.  I keep
remembering that there was a time in my life when I didn\’t feel a need
to self-medicate with any substance, and I had lots of fun.  I feel
like I can definitely live without it.

I love working out, and I just got back from a good jog.  I have a
nice, natural \”endorphin high\” right now – way more invigorating than
any substance!

To my smoking friends\’ credits: I have been in tons of social
situations where it was being passed around, and the people who were
there and didn\’t want to smoke were never pressured to do so – they
usually would just pass it along to the next person without partaking.
But I\’m extremely choosy about the people I choose to spend time
with, so I could be of the minority of people who know those who can
hang out in a mixed group setting (of abstainers vs. indulgers).

Peace and love!

QWAS: HI A***, I really liked your email. even your criticisms.

as for dreams. i think its pretty widely held that you dont remember your
dreams much at all when youre in the habit of smoking before bed. i
DEFINITELY started having vivid dreams again right after i quit.

its true that for a lot of people, the suggestion to have a glass
of wine is probably dangerous. for me, it helped…. but i suppose i
should add a huge caveat there. im going to revisit that part.

chemical vs. psychological. theres an open and ongoing debate here. a lot of
people believe that weed is chemically addictive. i should address it more on the site.. but i need to research it better.

even though your friends are respectful,
you should keep yourself isolated from events where there will be
joints at least until youre over the hump. i think you will make it so
much easier on yourself. your friends will undertand. then you can re-evaluate after you feel strong, and arent twiddling your thumbs wondering if you should roll a joint or not. could be a couple weeks. but likely longer. breaking your patterns is the toughest part. Im super happy that you went running. it was a real help to me…

A**: What originally got me to want to quit at first was being broke
because I was laid off.  I have a new job starting soon, but I just
decided to stop buying.  I tabulated that I was probably spending about
$1400.00 per year on my habit (less than most stoners, but still a
lot!) – that’s more than 2 months’ rent at my current apartment!  It’s
also enough to buy extra things that I could enjoy.  No joke, I know
people who will buy recreational things (like herb and booze) when they
can’t really afford it, then go to the soup kitchen to eat!  I just
can’t abide that karmically.  If I can only afford the bare
necessities, that’s what I buy.

I also just got bored with smoking.  I had to really ask myself if
I truly enjoyed it anymore or if it was just routine, and my answer to
myself was the latter.  It also helps that my roommate, who used weed
to distract from his alcoholism, is now finally ready to ditch the weed
as well.  I figure if he’s not smoking, I shouldn’t either – I don’t
want to tempt someone I’m friends with into doing something they no
longer want to do.  It’s also (to me) not fun to smoke alone.  Once the
communal aspect is gone, it just takes away the enjoyment to me.

The next substance I want to go is caffeine.  That’s the hardest
thing to me because I get super irritable and headachy when I don’t
drink enough coffee and I know I’ve got a high caffeine tolerance now -
I probably drink a pot of really strong coffee per day, and I just
don’t want any monkey on my back, even if it’s a legal monkey.  I
already have anxiety problems to begin with, and while I’m totally
addicted to the caffeine, it also makes me jittery and nervous!!  Most
people advise stepping that down gradually, like quitting cigarettes
(which I luckily never got into).

I was amazed yesterday (my first full day with no mary jane) that I
had no desire to over-eat.  I was always in denial about the munchies,
but I so totally got them!  I’ve been working on losing weight for
awhile, and it seems like quitting this will help.

OK, well, gotta go!  Thanks for writing me back!  I appreciate the
response.  The friends I’ve told have been insanely receptive to my
quitting, even the ones who don’t want to quit themselves.  I am
definitely not one to tell someone else how to live, so if they want to
it’s their choice.  I luckily tend to surround myself with people who
aren’t into peer pressure and are respectful of personal choice.

Peace and love!

QWAS: sounds good. i really wish you best of luck. i didnt have an easy time quitting.. and i actually wanted to for about 2 years before everything came together for me. it isnt easy. just go day by day. as for anxiety, weed can really do a number on you if you are
chronic for a long time and then quit all of the sudden. Dr. Drew talks
about this all the time. and i actually think he knows his shit, even
for a hollywood doctor.

my ex-roomate and close friend now has brutal anxiety any time he
tries to quit. he hasnt managed it. hes 37 and now living back at home.
being on his own ended up being more than he could handle. he smokes at
least a gram a day, and has for about half his life.

so… good luck with it. you can email me any time.

im not an expert. just another person like you who wanted to get out of the haze, and finally did.

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Mental Breakdown to San Diego Shakedown

K***: I just wanted to thank you for creating this site. I have been struggling with quitting for good for the last six months. I was about to have a mental breakdown, but I came across your site and it really made a big impact on me. For the first time in a long time I feel I have control over my addiction.

I know it’s still going to be hard, but I know I am strong enough to make it through it all and have my life back again. Thank you so much!

QWAS: I’m glad you found some things in there you can use.

I think once you make up your mind…. really make up your mind… and you start engaging yourself in some new activities, youre going to start liking the feeling of being not stoned. for me… it was taking pride in all of the mundane activities that i dreaded before that really helped. even vacuuming, or paying bills, or making a meal. whatever. taking pride in those things really helps your self esteem. i take pride in everything i do, even the stupid stuff.

for me — running helped break the cycle. i wrote about that a bit. you can do it by yourself whenever you just need to get out of the house. then you need a shower, then your hungry, and finally you are tired. sounds a little silly i know… but it made the first couple months so much easier for me…

i wrote also — that i used to have a glass of wine at night just to take the edge off. by no means do i want to turn potheads into alcoholics. so… please use caution here. a couple people have objected to this. however, for me it was a help… and i knew i could handle a glass of wine without wanting the bottle. make sure you know yourself well enough on this one.

anyway, i really know you will like your life better without being high every day. its totally possible to quit. its totally rewarding to find a new direction.

life is not stagnant. things are changing for you all the time. look back on your pothead days and laugh. i do. not at first, but now i do. it gets so much easier. in fact, i never am tempted at all now, and weed is the furthest thing from my mind.

i still like a glass of wine.

K***: These last two days have been really good. I have barely been jonesing at all! I am moving to San Diego next month to start school studying Interior Design so I have a lot to keep me busy. I’m also going to start hiking again starting tomorrow. I’ll keep you updated and again thank you.

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